What is Spiritual Direction?
“Spiritual Direction may be described as an inter-personal situation in which one person assists another to develop and come to greater maturity in the life of the spirit; this is the life of faith, hope, and charity.” ~A Discussion in Spiritual Direction
- the opportunity to share and explore your spiritual experiences in an accepting, non-judgemental atmosphere. It could be an experience in your life where you feel a transcendent presence, or an experience in your life where you are searching for deeper meaning. As an interfaith Spiritual Director, I am a companion to you on this journey, allowing space for you, as Directee, to define Spirit in your own terms.
- involves “holy listening”. As a Spiritual Director, I encourage you to share your experience and feelings, as together we contemplate the ways God energy is present in your life. You decide what you want to share and how much, as you allow Spirit to guide you. Anything we discuss is extremely confidential. As you become more aware of your feelings, needs and desires, you will find that your Spiritual Life moves to a deeper level.
- the experience of greater interior freedom and a deeper relationship with Spirit, self, and others
What to expect from your Spiritual Director:
- This is an equal partnership between Directee and Director
- A Spiritual Director is responsible for using the spiritual wisdom they have cultivated through extensive training to help you shape and inform your own spiritual understanding
- A Spiritual Director is responsible for using knowledge-based techniques, skillful questioning, and support to you, the Directee, to close the gap between potential and lived expression of your spiritual life
- A Spiritual Director is responsible for ensuring an environment that fosters trust, support, and accountability
- A Spiritual Director maintains strict confidentiality
- A Spiritual Director works in accordance with the Directee’s agenda and goals and does not push and orient the process
- A Spiritual Director will ask a lot of questions to ensure understanding and guide conversation toward self-understanding for the Directee
- Direction is a process by which both Director and Directee work together to address areas of personal and spiritual development and create steps for moving forward toward fully realizing one’s fullest and richest self
- Direction is a development opportunity intended to increase self-awareness and identify choices, motivations, and patterns in an effort to fully understand oneself and the movement of Spirit in one’s life. There is a hope that this identification process will assist efforts to achieve increased and sustainable effectiveness related to the Directee’s spiritual expression
- Direction is not intended to “fix” someone. Instead it the process of “being with” as one enters into a state of “becoming”
- Direction is not therapy or counseling
- While Direction is centered on the gentle unfolding of Spirit in our lives, it is not a passive process in which the Director plays the role of the expert providing ready-made answers. Direction is the act of “listening together”
- Direction should not be used for obtaining guidance on legal, medical, financial, business matters, however, you may bring your spiritual understanding and how you feel about these life experiences into Direction session
- Spiritual Director will notify a Directee immediately if they Direction relationship is not a good “fit”.
What is expected of you, as a Directee?
- Being open to the Direction process
- Furthering your personal and spiritual development
- Promoting an environment that fosters trust, support, and accountability
- Setting the agenda and identifying specific developmental goals
- Tapping into your own resourcefulness to identify steps toward moving forward
- Ultimately choosing for yourself how to express connection and meaning in your life
- Try on ideas. If a new idea is expressed or point of view is shared that is different from your own, try it on; try to see it from within another perspective
- Practice “both/and” thinking. As human beings, we often practice either/or thinking, believing that ideas, situations, plans, and so on can only be ‘this way” or “that way.” What happens if both ideas— more than plan and situation or perspective—can be meaningful, valuable, and true? What kind of creativity and collaboration can be unleashed by both/and thinking?
- Take responsibility for your own learning. If there is something that you do not understand, ask for clarification. Seek out sources of new learning. Come to the process with “intent to learn”
- Notifying Director immediately if the coaching relationship is not a good “fit”